Be the conductor of your own symphony
One of the most powerful lessons I have learned is that we are in charge of our own experience of life. How we look at life – whether as “hard” or a “gift”, will totally alter our experience of living.
It is a choice, one that gives you the ultimate role as conductor of your own symphony of life.
We can’t sit and wait for things to happen for us. We must put that responsibility in our hands. We must create the lives we dream of. Not just in our imaginations but in reality. Yes, things can be given to us or we can be presented with opportunities but what we make of ourselves is completely up to us.
Having a vision and then a deep purpose for wanting to achieve this vision – something that lights up your soul, fuels your spirit and quenches your hunger, your thirst, your every thought as it drives you through any obstacle. Nothing will stop you from making your dream come true.
When you fall, you learn. When you fail, you learn. You adjust your path and find another way. You relentlessly persist. You persist with more fire than ever before. Nothing will stop you. Nothing will slow you down. Nothing will get in the way of you getting to that place that tugs at your heart and fires up your blood and leads you to the greatest most powerful intention in every act of every day.
This is passion, motivation and hunger. This is having a mission and what it means to be alive.
To be in search of growth, experience, the evolution of the soul and spirit is what means to explore every part of who you are. What do you stand for? What drives you? What scares you? What lights you up? What has the potential to sabotage your efforts to be all that you can be?
In this exploration, in this self-discovery, we come face-to-face with the ultimate choice: do whatever it takes to be all that we dream of being? Or give in to our fears or our perceived limits, sit back and just go through the motions.
My choice has been to live – to risk failing, discovering parts of myself that I may not like knowing but then having the opportunity to water the garden of my greatest self and respectfully pull out the weeds that were trying to suffocate me. Now, I have never been a green thumb but in this case, it was necessary for me to get to prune all of who I was – the parts of me that I hid, that needed to remain behind closed doors; a secret kept until eternity. Realising I was gay was terrifying!
Dreams come true: Siri Lindley (R) and wife Rebekah Keat (L).
In the beginning, I felt that I had to keep this secret safe, as it could have wiped away all the respect I had earned. All that I had achieved would be forgotten. Those who loved me would feel disgusted by the fact that they loved someone like “that”. All the love I had worked too hard to earn could be lost.
It came the time, however, that to be all that I was capable of becoming meant to accept every aspect of who I was as a human being. I could no longer reject parts of me that I felt were unacceptable.
These parts were what made me whole. It was time to remove the masks and to fully engage every part of my being. Once I did this I was free! I was now firing on all cylinders, finally able to tap into all my potential and able to celebrate every aspect of who I am.
What were the consequences of this?
I had deeper relationships, more trust from my athletes. I delivered with more certainty. Not having to censor the stories I told or the lessons I shared – to hide that part of myself. I was free to unleash all the power within myself and be all that I could be, and the result was a much more powerful, engaging and compelling me as there was no trying to figure out: “What is that something that she is not saying?” “What is that something she is hiding?” Now, I am all here, 100 per cent authentic and able to share every single part of who I am to tell a story, teach a lesson, inspire, relate to, and bring out the best in others.
Everyone has parts of themselves that they think they need to hide, but in reality, if they embrace these and choose to develop their weaknesses, build upon their strengths, and look upon the entire “package” with love and respect, they are capable of becoming so much more. When someone isn’t being all of who they are, it comes off as that person being reserved, unapproachable or sometimes even, dishonest. There is something that is not being said, something being hidden. And people can feel that. That sense of wonder or confusion causes people to trust a bit less, and thus all relationships, business or personal, are not quite as deep as they could be. There is an element of hesitation; an element of caution.
Once we allow ourselves to be fully all of who we are, we suddenly become lighter, brighter, and more magnetic. We draw others to be open with us.
We create a sense of comfort in first meetings. We create a safe place where one feels that they are safe to express their fears, limitations, worries or their dreams. When one is approachable as a leader, all those around you are more likely to share so much more about themselves with you. You will then have more information to use to find out the best ways to bring out their ultimate performances. The more information they share, the more leverage you have to create the perfect leadership plans to bring out the best in everyone around you. In this process, you yourself are fully able to tap into your utmost potential and this is powerful.
If you want to have the best experience of life, then celebrate you every single day. BE ALL OF YOU! Bring all of you into this game of life and you will find that firing on all cylinders you can make all your dreams come true.
This is what life is all about: find YOU, celebrate YOU, be all that you can be. Life is a gift and our way of showing thanks for this incredible gift is to truly embrace all of who we are and give back, by becoming more.
Happy training and racing!